Keystone Habits

Romans 12:2(NIV) Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. 

1. Stop conforming into the patterns of this world.

Easier said than done. We are only human and I know that I slip and fall into the endless void of a world that we live in. I am trying so hard to be a better version of myself and sometimes it feels impossible. Everything we are exposed to now a days is shocking and sometimes sickening to me. I think of Eddie growing up in such a technologically advanced world and what he will see, hear, feel, and it makes me cringe. I know there is a lot of good out there and implementing God’s word is the key. I feel I need to start working more with him on the grace of God’s will and what we need to do in this life to prepare ourselves for eternity. We need to be more complacent in our lives and remember that the afterlife is where we strive to be. This world is only temporary and there is so much we can’t even imagine that lies in wait for us.

2. Get caught up with “stuff.”

We do. We get caught up in our work, our schedules, our children, and everything in between. Material things. We accumulate so much “stuff” that we don’t even know why we have it or why we even bought it in the first place. Hi, my name is Betsy and I’m addicted to coffee mug hoarding. No joke. Every chance I get I will buy a mug off Amazon, or a clearance mug at Home Goods, or wherever I can get my “fix.” I just love them. Do I need over 100 mugs? No, I don’t, but it’s hard to stop something once you start. I should know. I’m a recovering alcoholic. Not proud, but honest. I want to stop getting caught up with certain things and let go of the chain that binds me. Think of all that money that could be going into Eddie’s college fund. I know I need to be happy and love myself first, but Eddie is my everything. You become a little more selfless when you have a child and I don’t regret that.

3.When we do wrong, we blame fault.

We are never the ones to blame when something goes wrong or we do something wrong. It’s the truth. We find every which way to make sure it doesn’t go against us. I didn’t mean to fly off that handle for a simple mistake my son or my husband made, it’s obviously my bipolar disorder. I didn’t mean to get a DUI, it’s the alcohol, it took over my body and mind. It’s the disease. I didn’t mean to say those hurtful words, I was just hurt myself and it just came out. Don’t you see? It’s so easy to just blame something to feel better about ourselves. I know I’ll blame again, but I want to try to own up to my faults and realize I did what I did because I made the decision. It’s a hard pill to swallow.

4. We live life with our heads down.

Don’t we? Constantly on our phones, laptops, computers, gadgets, toys, books, the list goes on. We live in such a privileged time that we don’t even want to go outside sometimes. We find the comfort of our homes and our things and that’s all we need. Children today don’t know the fun of climbing trees, riding bikes for miles, playing from sun up until Mom and Dad call us in for dinner. Our son loves his Kindle. I let him have it for educational purposes, a little fun at times, and I think I’m letting him be on it too much. He sometimes cries for his Kindle at night when he can’t sleep. It’s so hard to say no to that little face and a few times, I must admit, I’ve given in. I’m trying to keep it to a minimum and have him play with his toys or on his playground outside.

It seems like people try to avoid one another and aren’t as willing to help someone out, unless it’s for their own benefit. I know there are plenty out there that still do, but the more we live behind our computer screens, the more I feel we isolate ourselves. Just me? I didn’t think so. It makes me feel at my most comfortable self and it makes me want to be more of an outgoing person. I never really was, unless it was behind the bottle. I’ve always been the one who kept to herself at school, did extremely well, didn’t ask questions, and always looked to the ground. I still have a hard time looking others in the eyes. I never look up when I walk because for some reason I have this anxiety that makes me very nervous in public. Unless I pop a Klonopin to take the edge off, I am a nervous wreck and it makes me hard to take Eddie out in public. I freeze when he throws tantrums because I feel embarrassed that people see me as a bad parent. I need to start learning to not care what others think and just focus on what’s in front of me. I am a good Mom and I won’t let that one get to me.

(I tend to go on ranting tangents sometimes, so you must excuse my ADD as a writer.)

Keystone Habit–Worship every week, not just once in a while, it can be transforming.

2019, I’ll choose not to worship if ________________.
ex. sick/contagious, death, sleeping

Point is, there is no excuse not to worship every week. 52/52. I want to try my hardest to keep my Keystone Habit: GOD COMES FIRST. He should be what starts my everyday. He should be who I have in mind when I have a decision to make or how to handle my toddler because believe me, it can be ROUGH.

I took these key points from the sermon Pastor Greg taught today at SunCrest Christian Church. I have to watch them on my laptop because I don’t live in Indiana anymore, but he will always have one of the biggest impacts on my life. This is the church I grew up in and know and will love forever. It’s the church who honored my Grandfather, Eddie Gene Barnett, with a plaque under the flagpole of the first SunCrest individually standing. We started out in Lake Central High School and founded in September 1994. In my heart I will always be apart of that church.

Thank you for the message that inspired my post today, it warms my heart and brings happy tears to my eyes.

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